Breaking Myths: Success Isn’t A Straight Line. Your Path, Your Pace.

When you’re figuring out your next steps, it’s easy to feel boxed in by other people’s definitions of success. We’re surrounded by messages about what we “should” want; a flashy job title, a big salary, or a clear, straight path from A to B. But the reality is far more interesting (and hopeful): research shows that most of us define success in deeply personal ways, and those definitions are changing all the time.

So, what if the “right” path is actually the one you create for yourself?

Success isn’t a straight line, or just what you achieve, it’s how you feel. Success isn’t always loud or obvious. Sometimes, it’s the quiet confidence that comes from sticking with something hard, or the satisfaction of making a difference, even in small ways. Ask yourself: when do you actually feel successful? Is it when you’re proud of your effort, at peace with your choices, or simply enjoying what you do? These moments might not come with a certificate or a title, but they’re just as real, and just as important.

The Myth of the One-Size-Fits-All Success

We’re often told there’s a single recipe for success; study hard, get a degree, land a high-paying job, climb the ladder. But dig a little deeper, and you’ll find that people’s priorities are much more varied. In fact, most of us care more about purpose, relationships, and personal growth than we do about status or wealth. Let’s look at what the research really says about what matters most.

Careers Aren’t Linear, and That’s Normal

If you’ve ever worried that your career path isn’t a straight line, you’re not alone. The idea that you have to “pick a lane” and stick to it is a myth that’s been debunked by generations of workers. From baby boomers to Gen Z, most people start out by trying different things, changing jobs, and learning as they go. The zig-zag is not just normal, it’s how you find out what actually fits!

We often talk about success like it’s a finish line you have to cross. But what if it’s more like a series of moments along the way? Maybe it’s learning from a tough experience, supporting a friend, or just feeling a little more confident than you did last year. Success can be ongoing, changing shape as you grow. Try reflecting: when was the last time you felt proud of yourself, even if nobody else noticed? What made that moment matter to you?

Money Isn’t Everything (and Most People Know It)

Let’s be real: money matters, especially when you’re just starting out. But it’s not the only thing that matters, and for many, it’s not even the most important thing. Today’s young people are leading the way in prioritising wellbeing, purpose, and flexibility, even if it means earning a bit less. The stats back it up: salary is just one small piece of the bigger “success” puzzle.

Your Version of Success Will Change Over Time

It’s natural to look around and wonder if you’re falling behind, especially when everyone else’s wins are on display 24/7. But most people only share the good bits. The promotions, the celebrations, the “I’ve made it” moments. The messy, uncertain, and in-between stages? Those rarely make it to your feed. Remember, you’re comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel. Real success is often slow, zig-zaggy, and full of setbacks and that’s totally normal.

It’s easy to feel like you’re supposed to have it all figured out by a certain age, and if you haven’t hit certain milestones you’re “behind”. But here’s the truth: what counts as success is personal, and it evolves as you do. Most people’s priorities shift as they gain experience, try new things, or simply grow up. There’s no deadline for finding your version of success.

Success isn’t always about what’s visible to others. Sometimes it’s the quiet pride you feel after sticking with something hard, or the sense of peace when you make a choice that’s right for you, even if nobody else notices. Remember, how success feels on the inside matters just as much as how it looks from the outside.

It’s okay not to have all the answers.

Feeling lost, stuck, or unsure isn’t a sign you’re failing, it’s a sign you’re human. Remember, success isn’t a straight line and every path has its tough patches. Sometimes just getting through the day is a win. Research shows that resilience and adaptability (bouncing back from setbacks, learning from mistakes) are some of the strongest predictors of long-term satisfaction.

Give yourself credit for the courage it takes to keep going, even when things aren’t clear. Sometimes, asking better questions is more important than ticking off milestones.

You don’t need to have it all mapped out. Your version of success is allowed to be a work in progress.

Success isn’t about ticking boxes or following a straight line. It’s about finding, and redefining, what matters to you, in your life at each individual stage. So if your journey looks different from what you expected (or what others expect), you’re in good company. The real myth? That there’s only one way to get there.